Lost and Found Earring

My parents had gifted me a lovely pair of ear rings for my wedding. I love wearing them regularly as they were very light weight. Last year around this same time (March 2012), one day, I had gone to board my younger daughter in her school van. On the way back home I realized that one ear ring (stud) was missing. I had only the other lock part of it which was still intact. After searching the house, road, etc. for 2-3 hours, I was slowly losing hope. I tithed, prayed and stopped my search for the ear ring. My husband was very supportive and told me if I am destined to get, it would come my way. Though I could not accept it fully at that point of time, I had just let go. 

Implementing LOA came to my mind.  I stayed with the feeling of being happy that I already got my ear rings. I visualized myself wearing that ear ring and going for the Lifeskills training which I had volunteered at a slum area school in Bannerghatta Road.  It might sound stupid but all I did was just 'Being happy and grateful' for getting that ear ring back.  The next day I had gone to board my daughter and was walking back home and Lo!! there it was in the midst of the road. I was awestuck!!  I frantically checked the ring for any damages as many school vans and cars go in that way.. Nothing at all. My ear ring was right intact. Though my MIL insisted that I keep it in the safe and not wear it again, I wore it  beaming with joy and gratitude to my LifeSkills session to make my dream come true. Visualizations coming true and that too, so beautifully is still a big surprise for me :)

Even today as I look at myself in the mirror, my ear rings are there to remind me that this beautiful life is filled with lots of lovely miracles :)

“Be-Do-Have Paradigm” - The Process of Creation

(from “Conversations with God” - Neale Donald Walsch)

Currently people have this paradigm reversed. Most people believe if they “have” a thing (more time, money, love - whatever), then they can finally “do” a thing (write a  book, take up a hobby, go on vacation, buy a home, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to “be” a thing (happy, peaceful, content or in love)

In actuality, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm. In the universe as it really is (as opposed to how we think it is), “havingness” does not produce “beingness”, but the other way around.

First you “be” the thing called “happy” (or “knowing” or “wise” or “compassionate” or whatever), then you start “doing” things from this place of beingness - and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you’ve always wanted to “have”.

The way to set this creative process (and that’s what it is.. this is the process of creation) into motion is to look at what it is you want to “have”, ask yourself what you think you would “be” if you “had” that, then go right straight into being.

In this way you reverse the way you’ve been using the Be-Do-Have paradigm - in actuality, set it right - and work with, rather than against, the creative power of universe.

Here is a short way of stating this principle.

In life, you do not have to do anything.

It is all a question of what you are being.

For now, to illustrate this, think of a person who just knows that if he could only have a little more time, a little more money, or a little more love, he’d be truly happy.

On the other hand, the person who is “being” happy seems to have time to do everything that’s really important, all the money that’s needed, and enough love to last a lifetime.

Happiness is a state of mind, And like all the states of mind, it reproduces itself in physical form. There’s a statement for a refrigerator magnet:

“All states of mind reproduce themselves”.

Act as if you are happy / prosperous / contended, etc, and you will draw it to you.

What you act as if you are, you become. Only you cant really be “faking”. Your actions have to be sincere.

Everything you do, do out of sincerity, or the benefit of the action is lost.

Natural laws require the body, mind and spirit to be united in thought, word and action for the process of creation to work.

You cannot fool your mind. If you are insincere, your mind knows it, and that’s that. You’ve just ended any chance that your mind can help you in the creative process.

You can, of course, create without your mind - it’s just a great deal more difficult. You can ask your body to do something your mind doesn’t believe, and if your body does it long enough, your mind will begin to let go of its former thought about that, and create a New Thought. Once you have a New Thought about a thing, you’re well on your way to creating it as a permanent aspect of your being, rather than something you’re just acting out.

This is doing things the hard way, and even in such instances, the action must be sincere. Unlike what you can do with people, you cannot manipulate the universe.

So, here we have a very delicate balance. The body does something in which the mind does not believe, yet the mind must add the ingredient of sincerity to the body’s action for it to work.

The mind may not be able to sincerely agree that the actions of the body can bring you that which you choose, but the mind seems very clear that God will bring good things through you to another.

Therefore, whatever you choose for yourself, give to another.

If you choose to be happy, cause another to be happy.

If you choose to be prosperous, cause another to prosper.

If you choose more love in your life, cause another to have more love in theirs.

Do this sincerely - not because you seek personal gain, but because you really want the other person to have that - and all the things you give away will come to you.

The very act of your giving something away causes you to experience that you have it to give away. Since you cannot give to another something you do not now have, your mind comes to a new conclusion, a New Thought, about you - namely, that you must have this, or you could not be giving away.

This New Thought then becomes the experience. You start “being” that. And once you start “being” a thing, you’ve engaged the gears of the most powerful creation machine in the universe - your Divine Self.

Whatever you are being, you are creating.

This circle is complete, and you will create more and more of that in  your life. It will be made manifest in your physical experience.

This is the greatest secret of life.

If you give to another as a contrivance, a manipulation meant to get something to come to you, your mind knows this. You’ve just given it a signal that you do not now have this. And since the universe is nothing but a big copying machine, reproducing your thoughts in physical form, that will be your experience. That is, you will continue to experience “not having it” - no matter what you do!

Furthermore, that will be the experience of the person to whom you’re trying to give it. They will see that you are merely seeking to get something, that you have nothing, really, to offer, and your giving will be an empty gesture, seen for all the self-serving shallowness from which it springs.

The very thing you sought to attract, you will thus push away.

Yet when you give something to another with purity of heart - because you see that they want it, need it and should have it - then you will discover that you have it to give. And that is a grand discovery.

My favourite game

I came across a wonderful game recently. You need to have a partner to play this game. If possible, make your close friend as your partner to start with the game.

The game is very simple.. The first person has to clap his hands. The second person is supposed to prevent the first person from clapping. The game is for 2 minutes. At the end of it, you have to change roles and start off again.

This game was conducted to wake us up in one of the training sessions and all of us enjoyed playing this game.

Later when I thought about it, I realized that it was not only a game but an eye-opener. Our life is like the first person and the problems we have in life is like the second person. In the game, though the second person tries his level best to stop us, we still try our level best to clap our hands.. And the best part, we like doing it.

Why is it that we dont have the same mind when it comes to life?? We get tired of clapping, tired of facing the problems in life.. We get dissatisfied with the way life is. Why??
Is it because we dont have an open mind when we grow up?
Is it because we are afraid to clap and shoo away problems?
Is it because we think we would lose?
Lots of unanswered questions..

Isnt it time to realize that in between problems is a thing called life, that has to be lived and enjoyed??

For Young Bangaloreans

Wockhardt Hospitals is arranging a Walkathon for people who are young at heart. If you are one, please register yourself. The details are specified in the image.

Dream Book

Most of the Personality Development books encourage us to have our own "dream book". I understood the importance of my "dream book" only after practicing it. If you dont know what a "dream book" is all about, continue reading:

• Your dream book should capture atleast 101 dreams of yours.
• Even if your dreams are big, go ahead and jot it down in your dream book.
• Categorise your dreams as Family, Career, Spiritual, Material, etc.
• If possible, stick some pictures in your dream book.
• Allot 10 minutes everyday to read your dream book... If possible, visualize every point as you read.

I am sure that most of you will find this to be a very effective technique to make your dreams come true.

Night is longer for those who Dream... And Day is longer for those who make their Dreams come true...!!!

Change your past??

"If you get a chance to change an incident in your past, what would you change?" This question made me to think.. I would have changed a lot of things if this question was asked few years ago. But today, this question makes me to realize the importance of failures. Here goes a comparison of what I would have wished to change a few years back and my state of state on the same issue today.

Few Years Back: I would have changed my name (a total different name.. I hate the way people irritate me by calling "Anurammma" or "Anuraaama" or the worse, "Manorama, is it?").

Today: I wouldnt have got a blog id and a link so easily. Same is the case with any registration.. Thanks to my Dad. And ofcourse, there are people who remember me well because of my strange name.

Few Years Back: I would have studied well to get into a DOTE I college..

Today: I dont have any regrets for having studied at my college. Gosh.. all the fun I had in my hostel days and the wonderful set of friends I got during my college days..

Few Years Back: I would have got atleast 2 more jobs by trying off-campus. I rejoiced once I got my first offer letter. Never knew that my batch would face the after-effects of WTC attack.

Today: I would have never got the experience that I got in my first company. My first job made me realise the value of money. My starting salary was meagre. I used to plan for every penny I spend.. I saved them to buy something for my parents and my younger brother. The joy I had then can never be put in words.


These are just a few thoughts.. The list goes on and on. The jist of it.. "All that happens, happens for your own good". I had laughed at this phrase at many points of time in my life. I had fought with God for not giving me all the luxuries that others had. But today I thank God for the wonderful life he has gifted. I dont say that I am fully satisfied with my present life. Even now, I wish I could change a few things here and there.. but then immediately I think of all that I had wished to change from my past and how well they have helped me to face life.

Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest. Don't judge life by one difficult season. Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later. I have experienced this and I am sure its the way life teaches its lessons for all of us.. what say?

Happy (?) Women's Day

Why do we celebrate Women's Day? Isnt it a day to tell to the world that women are in par with men? If yes, can you tell me that no woman faced any eve-teasing today? Shouldnt we be ashamed to give a negative answer for the above question?

Why is it that a woman has to undergo all ordeals? Having her monthly friend to trouble her, do all household chores, go to work to meet her family's financial requirements, give birth to a baby and to top it all, feel ashamed for having born as a woman when guys join hands to tease her.
Shouldnt we be ashamed of this fact? I have undergone a great deal of eve-teasing. In the inital days, I never had the courage to raise my voice against those stupids. I was afraid. When I started raising my voice, started slapping those guys on their face, I realized that they were mere cowards who tend to utilize the slightest oppurtunity to touch a woman, pass comments about her, etc. If she doesnt have the guts to protect her, then they build their courage and take their liberty in over-doing their favourite time-pass.

How many of you will be happy to have your daughters out there being teased by a rogue? Are these men getting encouraged because of our movies that make women do only the glamour role? Then why are we encouraging those stupid movies? Why isnt there any rule to stop this non-sense? When government can impose rule to stop showing scenes where a person smokes, why cant they stop making a heroine wear a two piece costume while the hero is fully dressed?

There was this link at Blank Noise project where a guy has poured his mind out. Yup.. I agree with most of his points.. but, why is it that girls who are well-dressed and decent are also teased by men? Doesnt that showcase the cheap mentality of men? Why are gals getting raped and killed every day? Even if they have showcased a part of their body, why should men go to the extreme limits? Havent you seen men who roam around with sleeveless shirts? Havent you come across men wearing tight pants so that you can make out the shape of their wallet? How many of them are getting raped or the least, how many of them are getting teased by other women? When we gals maintain our decency and limits when it comes for commenting on the dresscode of men, why cant men draw boundary lines for themselves?

I am sorry if this post ended up to be a very serious one.. I had just poured my heart out.. Please correct me if my views are wrong.

This day being Women's day, I humbly request all men who read this post to take a pledge not to tease any woman. And ofcourse, to all girls out there, no adam-teasing please.